'Dear ENTJs, I seem to like people. I like looking for their best aspects and listen to them and I find compulsions and feelings fascinating. Please tell me that it's okay and I don't have to hand...
ToughLilCookie It's tempting to say that I am/might have cornered myself into the wrong field of work entirely, but I'm-- wondering whether I can make it work anyway. Unsure yet how exactly, but it...
myGTI That's pretty much it really, I like how my anonymity allows me to be more open about what I share in these boards (which, atleast for my standards, quite a lot. Especially in sex/relationship...
enfpeeved Is this the same ENTJ you have been asking about? (If yes) How are both of you doing?
Dating another extrovert is a new.. experience. I have only dated introverts before.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfM_PJDk0r8
Irrational decision-making.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfM_PJDk0r8
Took a (work) strength assessment test, having no/very little idea how to apply the result into my field of work (I don't intend to drastically change fields). I'll sit on it for a bit while, for now.
Do not ask questions you yourself are not willing to answer.
Not putting up my picture keeps me honest. Honesty > wanting to show my face.
Handsome Jack Then a very unhealthy one? Since ENFPs seem to be all about possibilities. Taking people down is the act of someone who feels trapped.
(My) insecurities (currently, about my relationship) are like 1-foot long transparent fat blind cockroaches that only thrive in deep darkness. In bright light they're not threatening at all. ...
Happiness is a vine.
I don't want one. Alright, let's try this: I cannot imagine (the use of imagining) of having another-type alter ego. I'd take/would be interested in having a male version of myself, maybe.
Do ENTJs see themselves as superior to other types? To some of them. Or to everyone else in general? To some of them. Are ye all Steve Jobs, Napoleon-esque hard-charging types? I prefer...
I'm still unsure how much/how to communicate in a relationship. How much to leave out, what to adjust. What to do with this feeling of uncertainty. It is very easy to rush this but all of my...
What's left of you is (only) smoke, now. Dissipating? Lingering?
@Prada the ESFJ I know is firmly operating on being emotionally manipulative/emotional blackmailing, I could see them wanting to keep the 'peace' would strike down those who stand out. They'll do it...
xSFJ ('getting along'/ against people who stand out/ preserves 'the niceness of' status quo), some strains of INFx (against materialism/idealistic, they can be quite vocal + aggressive). ExTJ might...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Oni8_k5twU
As I recognize what someone wants (of me), somehow ... there's a sadness in it. I will comply, of course. I am not against it, and maybe pleasing them is what I've been created to be, anyway. It's...
That my parents/older brother wouldn't like them.
My INFP ex is (I'm still in contact with him) one of the most stable, down to earth guys that I know. The way we disastrously crashed and burned might have been mostly because we were immature and...
Butter cookies or shortbreads? As peace offering.
DIY Planners.
This. I need to know that they won't only 'behave' (functioning well?) when I'm there/ keeping tabs. I don't want a child to take care of, 'home' should be a place where I can take off my armor and...
Hanging out with friends, baking, feeding people, lately, hogging my significant other, as well.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C_3d6GntKbk
@furryfury Thank you. I'm thinking of keeping a Google sheet file for it, it should be making it easier to highlight/designate a color and move around. It's pretty obvious that a lot has been...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GFGPSx6cPN0
Any advice for household/everyday financial planning? I have been vaguely aware of how horrible my family's day-to-day spending habits are (ENFP mother, ESTP brother), but when actually starting...
Were you quick to get hurt as a child? No. I was a rather jockish child, in retrospect. Was there someone that bullied you for being a crybaby? I was the bully. I did get into fights, however,...
Animal Oh, nothing so dire/anguished. I just ... slightly misbehaved and having absolutely no regrets about it. Good song though, I'm not familiar with the artist/singer.
I have no intention to make excuses, nor apologies. Sorry.
That's figuring out feelings for me, it's often not worth it. And most of the time, it's irrelevant/not that important anyway, but not so when dealing with personal relationships with a Feeler. ...
I've been thinking about this. My ENFP (still getting used to that) said several times Don't think (about it) too much, as he saw me processing something that just happened/a remark/a conversation....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xs9X8NhQJF4
In my case... it was mostly a realization of-- in order trying not to get hurt, one often end up hurting oneself. But it is scary, choosing to be vulnerable without being careless. How to balance...
Genes do not care about human happiness. Physical compatibility and dizzying chemistry do not mean that happiness will surely follow. I want to be happy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fK3fVJtFTh0
I have not. Thank you. Well, except this one(s), As I finished writing the above post I realized I cannot/ would not actually contact him. Because it would be.. somewhere between disrespectful...
.... Hello, I'll attempt to keep it brief, - It was a long distance relationship and we were friends for years before we dated, - We talked about everything, everyday, and it was-- wonderful...
@enfpeeved Personally (I don't know how other ENTJs approach it), not at all? Feelings are difficult, so by default I don't open up to many about that-- because it's confusing, but experiences tend...
I decided to trust you. For now.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37Z_bIqIWpg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cL4uhaQ58Rk Please see me reaching out for someone I can't see Take my hand let's see where we wake up tomorrow Best laid plans sometimes are just a one night...
@Little_Bird @series0 I realized at some point that one can choose not to be jaded -- without being unwise. Around late 20s - early 30s (or even lower), it seemed that plenty women are already burnt...
enfpeeved ... define 'closed off'?
.... In some ways I was impressed by how it came together, I suppose. It felt more like 'fate' than effort, though. A series of coincidences that forced me (us?) to consider the prospect somewhat...'
