'I just wanted to thank everyone for their input. I received this from him today (paraphrased): Feel free to email. He promises to read them all. He can't promise to answer them quickly and he...
You know, it's funny because I am guilty of exactly the same sort of behavior... I don't reassure nearly as often as might be needed. Yet I feel so strange when somebody does it to me! I guess...
I'd like to ask a not-so-hypothetical question of the dear INTJs in this forum. And INTJ and I (INFJ) have struck up a close relationship. Time has not yet revealed if it's going to be a...
Hello, friends! I used to be quite regular on this forum. Life had interesting plans for me, though, so I disappeared for two years. Upon my return, I decided to browse through my history of...
Sadly, every man I have dated in the past three years has been somebody I met at work. It usually happened after a protracted getting-to-know-you phase followed by a pact that, should anything go...
This was great. My father is an INTJ, and I noticed our relationship started smoothing out when I was in my mid-30's. This may have had to do with the fact that I was strengthening my Ti. It...
If we are indeed talking about a INTJ, and a stereotypical one at that, I can take a stab at these two questions. Just keep in mind that all people and situations are different. It probably meant...
Good luck to you, Mithril... Having been a really negative and depressed person for years, I know that I was a massive drain on the people around me. I appreciated those who stuck around and I...
Happy INFJ here who doesn't suffer from the envy you describe. Dealing with unhealthy and unhappy people is only rewarding if they actually ask for and listen to your advice. It sounds like they...
Man... If g_w can't find a post on PerC, then I don't feel so bad about never being able to find anything twice around here. PS: Glad you found it! It was a good read.
We were sitting on a bench on a pier, watching boats go by and chit-chatting. It was a friendly situation, two people who know each other a bit and were comfortable. INTJ said something and I...
In my experience... How to tell if an INTJ does not like you: they talk to you as little as necessary and are around as little as the situation dictates. (This can be a tricky one at work.) ...
You're the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me, said my INTJ boyfriend.
I actually had a couple moody days just recently, so I will try to give you a glimpse into my mind. First of all, if you go by the MBTI and the function preferences of INFJ, we are secondary Fe. ...
My standard operating procedure seems to be to assume the best of a person. So I have an initial yes reaction followed by either a continuation of that yes after prolonged interaction or a trend...
I spent about 15 years of my life saddled with major depression and anxiety. It destroyed my ability to work, go to school, or even leave my house. I am not that way any more. I hit bottom and...
Sounds about a hair away from a romantic relationship, if you ask me. Granted, I'm not an INTJ. The INTJ I am seeing has some platonic male-female friendships. I know about them, though. He...
Yes. Exactly. You lose a friend and gain... nothing. I'm imagining a turtle in a zoo, pulled inside its shell, desperately wishing that some little kid would stop trying to get a reaction by...
I felt the same (regarding the obsession and the boundary issues). I don't think he has quite hit her over the head with the I'm seeing someone line. Philosophically speaking, it bothers me...
I think the most awful part of the situation is her ability to manufacture hope. This is a woman who has been told that the feelings are not reciprocated and that they cannot be together in that...
I am glad you said all this. It is essentially what I said to him and it is very nice to hear it said back to me. I told him that it isn't right to deprive a person of an important truth and...
The INTJ I am seeing is a real gem of a guy. He treats people he cares about with respect. He does nice things for them. One of his female friends (a friendship he thought of as platonic)...
INFPs are wonderful mystical friends.
Oh my god, g_w, I don't think I have to offer any details except to say... You were right. This is me making a stunned face and going wow ever so quietly.
This is very good advice and I thank you for it. I don't intend to be impatient. I am older and have been knocked around by life so I am extremely cautious as well. Based on these recent...
I have one question... I have been told that I like you more than a lot. I don't need to attach the l-word label to that to be happy with it. I actually just wonder about that level of liking. ...
This almost made me spit soda all over the airplane seat ahead of me. I like your description of how people either fit or they don't and the adaptations you have to make in the latter case.
After fifteen hours in airplanes and airports, he has begged me to stop by his home after I land. I have been promised a shower with warm towels, comfortable clothes, a meal, and any amount of...
This sentence was important to me and I thank you for it.
I am normally pretty careful and harmonious. I don't like to hurt people at all, even if they hurt me. Especially if they trust me to be in their heads. It sounds like if I just continue these...
You are kind, lilysocks. I should probably apologize for dripping cynicism all over the nice, clean forum. We are coming up on the two week mark since my INTJ took me on the most beautiful date I...
Nobody ever focuses on me unless they need advice or a shoulder to cry on. Never underestimate the charm of having somebody come at you with intensity that you can just let wash over you because...
Is this a finish each other's sentences kind of deal or a wordless, mind blowing time in bed sort of thing?
Currently the focus of an INTJ laser. It is intense! Intense rationality one minute, intense romance the next. Nothing halfway. Amazing.
They could talk about anything and everything but the love letter is anonymous on a public forum?
As it turns out, it was the most spectacularly perfect date I have ever been on. Gotta love INTJs. If they bother to do something, it is top-notch. Hidden romantics are the best.
Thank you for your well wishes! This quote of yours made me laugh. Being at work this week has been... different. We're both a lot more professional with one another than we have been recently. ...
Hokey! Well pfffft. ;) I think it is sweet.
Once we're on our way and have relaxed a bit in each other's company, I plan to tell him how blown away I am. That's perfectly sincere. My jaw dropped when he told me the details. (I wondered how...
See? I knew it was a dumb question. Use your intuition, little INFJ! Many thanks to Pyogenes, @Nafatali, @jeb, @Green Girl, @lilysocks, and @MisplacedElements for slapping me upside the head...
This is probably a dumb question, but I am currently overthinking everything massively and could use external input. If an INTJ agrees to meet you outside of work, and then plans an extravagant...
Thank you for saying this! When I dissect the idea behind this sort of thinking, what I get is, Well, I don't beat her or shout at her. She should be in love with me! No. Being the bare...
I'm kind of curious why so many people think of boring, stressful, lack of conversation as conventional romance. What if you go to dinner and have a great talk then go see a movie and dissect the...
Just an update for the few kind INTJs who were following my saga... As far as the innuendo went, I didn't perceive it as harassment. It was just silly double entendres that made me laugh. ...
My best friend is an INFP man. He's older (60's) and has matured wonderfully. He is sweet, sensitive, kind, giving, and so so so insightful. He is the best girlfriend I have ever had.
I may not be the type of person you want responding, since I am an INFJ. However, I was in an open marriage for a number of years. The fact that he acknowledges that the reason for the open...
My INTJ at work has begun to gradually increase the amount of sexual innuendo in our conversations. Is this flirting?
I still enjoy that. I wish it happened more often. I historically have had to make the first moves on my fellow introverts.
You have been close friends for a very long time. If you want to keep your secrets to yourself, that is your decision. I am just here to tell you that it is entirely appropriate to tell a close...
Interesting. Thank you for clarifying your previous comments. I guess it is what it is, whatever it may be! I always welcome your insights. He probed a little bit into my love life today while...'
