'...This might be a question for people older than myself... I'm 25 and I've realized after a recent breakup that I'll continually lose the ones I love as I grow older... It's inevitable. I can...
I have yet to learn how to control my emotions. They often have the better of me. I don't really think they're for us to control though because they're important signals that teach us how to be...
I feel like I am begging. I'm terrible at giving people space. My painful emotions take over and all other considerations are out the window. It's always been something I have to practice. He didn't...
You're very wise if I may say that haha. I honestly enjoy our conversation. Perhaps it's your INFJ side speaking to mine or because you're another person trying to understand. I feel very lonely at...
Your words are very elegant and thoughtful. Thank you. You've made me feel a little more understood and less alone. I just feel like I'm being tortured because he's going to be another person in my...
Those are the exact two points I was considering. What would you have done? I told him in the letter that I've never felt that kind of pain thinking I wouldn't be able to be a good boyfriend to...
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I'm hoping his pride is not getting in the way, but it is one explanation. I just think if he cares about me he wouldn't let something like pride get in the way. If I was in his shoes I would...
Why are Fi types better at getting through emotions faster? I'm a pretty accurate INFJ and I think because I understand emotions I have the need to deal with them immediately instead of hiding them....
I understand what you mean by finding consistency in the way someone cares about someone and that everyone shows affection differently, but there's a difference between caring for someone and caring...
Hi there, It's late and I'm just hoping tomorrow will be a better day. Perhaps you can help me out with that? Thanks in advance for the kind words and advice. I broke up with my BF late May...
I do such a bad job at managing stress. My anxiety makes me stressed all the time, but I try my best. If I'm dealing with something extremely stressful I like to take myself out of the situation. Go...
My BF tells me I'm a super nice person. I'd like to think my passion for my career and my ability to deeply love is attractive.
I think the answer is to follow your intuition. Personally I can't control whether or not I want something more than friendship with someone in the future. I'd suggest keeping your heart open. It's...
That's why I don't jump into relationships because it's rewarding to find someone who can care for you correctly, but the wrong kind of care is taxing physically and mentally. I don't think my list...
I think a lack of appreciation is a common relationship issue. I know my INTJ BF loves hearing compliments and knowing he made me happy. I want to learn to acknowledge him in those ways more. He also...
You've described my idea of a relationship. I want to intertwine with my partner and let them see what I see. I could care less if anyone else sees what I see. It's a gift when your partner is...
I understand what you mean about only a few people understanding and loving you correctly. I feel like it's hard to find someone who can sense when I'm down. Usually it only happens when I'm...
I'm not sure if you mean graduate or undergrad, but graduate school would judge you harder. Although a good portfolio is a good portfolio so I'll share some of my thoughts. First of all, a...
Artwork is and always will be subjective. Something hung on the wall from Ikea may be art to one person and not to the next. Personally I draw the line at crafts/decoration and design. Decoration...
I'm not sure how that would work in a relationship. What do you see as a nice gesture then? What actions do people do that make you feel good or happy? NewMango... I've never met anyone who'd...
I think I'm simple as well, but the simple needs are harder to fulfill than you might think. I'm not asking for money or someone to cook for me. I can be happy just having someone to listen to me and...
My BF and I are pretty similar in our needs, we appreciate genuine care and knowing we are there for each other. We don't mind being babied because we both know we are capable on our own. We can give...
That does sound like him. My BF tried bringing up something difficult one time when I was sharing a fear with him and he told me we should change the subject. I just get lost in the way he...
I'm in the midst of a breakup/re-relationship with an INTJ that doesn't always know how to best care for me. I'm curious, how do other INFJs feel like they are being cared for by their partners? ...
I believe partners don't always know how to best care for each other so I'm vocal about my needs when they aren't being met. I do it in the nicest way possible and my BF (INTJ) is usually receptive...
It's weird, but I'm kinda in the same boat. Although I'm trying to get my ex (INTJ) back after I broke up with him. I know this for sure, INTJ's appreciate concrete evidence. My ex ignored my...
This sounds so romantic. Trust me I've had the same experience in my teens when I wasn't comfortable enough to go out and date men. I use to go online and search for prince charming. Every once in a...
I've always found myself pretty random. Being on this site on and off. On again starting yesterday. Why? Who knows.. Well I do, it's because I wanted to. I find it a type of control to be able to...
My thoughts are usually more coherent in my head than out loud. I'm a visual artist and find that visual language is more forgiving because speaking requires a definiteness that I don't really care...
I understand not everyone likes to reveal their deepest secrets, but I see my role as the person he would go to for stuff like that. Isn't that what relationships are for? I suppose it's partly my...
I broke up with my ex (INTJ) about 2 months ago and I recently decided I want him back. I was in a bad place and didn't think I'd be a good boyfriend anymore. He also wasn't picking up on how exactly...
I definitely have bad days where nothing seems to go right and happiness seems unfathomable. I often say the weather knows how I feel because when its gloomy or rainy I'm often sloth-like or down and...
I'm bias towards art that's handmade vs art that incorporates digital technology. I'm a bit frustrated because a lot of art schools these days seek students who are working with cameras, ipads,...
I believe the site below is free, I used it as an online portfolio. Really easy to use and looks great. There's another similar one that I forget. cargocollective .com
I actually hear this a lot from artists, I might be an exception for validating my own identity as an artist. I don't consider myself arrogant and I don't see artist as an envious label...it's a...
I think for many artists including myself the objects we make bridge our realities with a shared reality. I believe the art itself often exists before ever obtaining an objective form. Many artworks...
Well everyone is both introverted and extroverted which is why it's hard to tell sometimes which is dominant for some people, although I'm sure many are quite balanced. I believe introverts tend to...
I kinda think all love is selfish to a degree whether it's unconditional or conditional, but of course love and attachment are two different things. To love something is to say you have them for a...
I practice unconditional love, but I don't know if anyone practices on me..I believe unconditional love is being able to love someone without having to be near them. You wish them well even when they...
It seems like a lot of you INFJs would say your partners balance you. I also seek this kind of balance in a partner, but is it wrong? Everyone says I need to be a whole person and I should not find...
It's funny but I'm usually attracted to people who seem like somethings bothering them or perhaps mysterious is the right word. My rule is to never date artists as I am one and the combination would...
I think lots of people have traumatic experiences whether as a kid or not, experiences compose an individual. I think I'm very needy, attached, and sentimental about the ones/objects I love because...
Personally I think it's hard to lose myself because I always do things with a purpose. If you cannot find a good reason to be working then why do it? Some things you should give up while other...
I actually relate to your feelings a lot. I don't have a lot of friends either, but i have about 3 close ones. One of my bestfriends left about 2 years ago and it was one of the hardest breakups I...
I think I've cried most of it already right after he told me about his ex. It's been a long week. It was just so sudden, like a knife to the heart. Then he texted me recently that he doesn't want me...
I went through somewhat of a breakup recently with a guy I knew for 2 months and I'm not sure how to feel at the moment. We weren't technically in a committed relationship but this guy had a hold on...'
