'I think that came out wrong. I'd like her to like hearing from me as the outcome, in sense that if she didn't want to hear from me then I wouldn't want to message her. Although that's not something I...
Have you ever ghosted, the act of disappering on your friends without notice , a friend for a long period of time? Did you ever reach out to that person again? What happened? I was on here about a...
I have thought about professional help but something about it doesn't interest me. I also don't know how to get in with someone or if that person will be good. It's a bit daunting. I am aware of...
*double post*
I was asked what I consider a good friend so that is what I think of as a good friend to me. I know what others consider a good friend is going to be different. You could ask my closest friends and I...
Oh, I never thought of forgiveness as moving on, at least in this situation, since there isn't anything to forgive. I am a bit upset right now but it's not her fault, and I'm not holding it against...
Sorry InTheRockies I made an important edit to my post. Your advice still stands and I appreciate it very much but I already answered some of your questions. I don't have something to say right now...
Yes, I've said similar things but I like the way you put it. That's hard to put into words as it is complex. Right now I can't think of anything more than a list of traits. For myself a true...
I know I have to let it go and at this point I could just drop the friendship, never talk to her again, just because I am upset. That does not seem like a healthy, or proper way to let go. I also...
Well I have talked about the situation before and I know some people remember and think I should let it go. It's a situation of unrequited feelings and and that she is now dating someone else. I've...
How can you be forgiving and supportive of a friend who, not intentionally, did things that hurt you and then made life choices you don't agree with? I' have never been upset like this before and...
The first time I asked is when she said we are friends and that she didn't want a relationship because of school. That was quiet a while ago, about two years. This last time was at Christmas and she...
Anyone able to give some advice on whether or not I should communicate a certain topic with someone? I usually am open and communicate but right now I just do not know what to do. I have a very...
Up until this last Christmas when I brought up what I thought about her that may have been the case. Although I think she was way more unsure than I was. Even some things she said Christmas have me...
Other than moves have you actually told her? In your post I didn't see much, if any mention, that you actually told her that you like her. Open and honest communication is usually the best,...
Interesting of you to ask since recently, as in a few weeks ago before this whole conversation here, I did catch myself getting upset at here for no good reason. I wouldn't necessarily call the...
Sorry, I had kind of been assuming most of the advice here was leading toward ending the friendship. Although I am not sure why I assumed that, it's just the advice I see around so much for others in...
You are right again, I barely have a plan a when it comes to the social and emotional aspects of life. The social aspects of life are not usually high on my list of importance. This is an extremely...
I am sure it is possible to be a combination of both. I find myself to be calm, emotionally stable, not caring too much about what other think of me, yet I can still be very perfectionist and...
Not necessarily any specific type but any people who are reclusive with their emotions or are able to change their emotions, thoughts, and opinions, so easily. I don't know enough about the types...
I think most people on this site are similar in that respect. Why else would someone come here? Sure there are fun enjoyable aspects to this site but a lot of the site seems to be about figuring out...
I agree, I do seem a bit obsessive. That is the hardest thing to change because when I care about someone or thing a lot then my brain thinks about, and analyzes, the situation a lot. I have to...
Hmm, I've done all those things before but never once expected anything in return. I do things, such as helping, or giving people gifts, because I truly want to and not because I've expected...
No need to apologize, I actually appreciated the questions but I will say they were not easy. You are very right, it doesn't do me, or even her, any good for me to worry about her, our friendship, or...
The only thing is, and I say this without any clarification from her so I may be wrong, I thought at one point she was interested. I know she doesn't now but I never did find out about the past. I've...
Sometimes I'm quiet afraid to do certain things when it comes to people I am interested in. I don't know how to full explain but I worry about my intentions. That I am not doing things just because I...
What is orbiting? Also since I don't see myself as judging her would you care to explain? Sorry, doesn't mean it's not true but if it is true I would like to see it.
It may seem like I am holding her to past patterns but I'm not trying to. I'm not going to ever confront her about these things. My posting here is more of a way to entertain my thoughts and...
Cake! Cause it has always existed and is always getting eaten. Have you ever been eaten? Also isn't this the ask an INTJ thread not ask an INFJ thread? :tongue:
If I am the cake, and the cake is a lie, then I am of no help in giving directions to this potion. Especially since you did not sign the waver. Sorry. Although why would you want a potion to live...
I'm being sincere when I say, with these most recent questions, gaining information is my only agenda. Yes I have asked here before about this but last time I was trying to figure out if there is...
Sorry if it seems like I am hiding an agenda. I'm not trying to hide anything. My only agenda was to gather more info on my thoughts, get opinions from others. The beard conversation wasn't that...
I'm not entirely sure why but something about that first paragraph is funny. She may dislike his beard although I mentioned previously she said it simply looked Ok on him and by the end of that...
*Woops, duplicate post*
I'm an NF and I'm hooked on programming. What does that mean for me? I'm also a graphic/web designer so...
You've suddenly got a chance to ask one person, or fictional character, from any time period a question. Do you know what you would ask and who? If so, what and who?
Swede and Wellsy I had no idea there was a research and study behind this idea and similar others. I'm not surprised as there's usually research on most ideas and topics. Still very cool to...
That is something I understand, still liking someone even if a negative trait is noticed. One question though, when/if you notice those things does it change your opinion on where a relationship...
First, did you sign the waiver?
Hmm, either we really don't agree or are talking about two different ideas, I think the latter. I'm just having trouble linking assumptions to physical traits, at least from the example I gave. I can...
So I've got an interesting question, or at least by my bias I do. After having a good conversation with an INTJ friend of mine she said some things that got me thinking about INTJs in relationships....
Hmm, I didn't think of it like that. I guess so because even so she was aware she may forget on Sunday and had told me that I should remind her. She wouldn't have said that if she was bothered by my...
Ah, I see. Luckily there has been no sign that she has. Plus she's asked in the past why haven't I just called when, I haven't heard back from texts, and we had plans.
How so do you mean, would you mind explaining a bit more? One thing I wonder is if we have contradictory thoughts on what an important friendship is, or at least what actions should be taken to...
Understandable. I would have only said it because I want to find out but I can see how it would come off as manipulating and needy. Is there a way to ask that wouldn't come off in that way? Well...
Not to undermine but that would be an unexpected reaction. Only because I have never gotten that reaction from anyone before. May I ask why that would be your reaction? I wasn't think about...
I got her answering machine. Mentioned I hadn't heard from her, asked if everything was alright and said to give me a call something. I wonder now if I should have asked about her maybe avoiding the...
Yes this has been extremely difficult to decide. Our friendship has been through some serious stuff recently and I have not been so direct; I've held back. To finally be able to talk but at the same...
I edited my post and added context while you posted. Sorry, I tend to edit and add after posting.
INTJ forgetting to contact someone when they said they would earlier in the day? Or forgetting to contact someone in general? Maybe avoiding conversation? I was supposed to have a more serious...'
