'You're emotionally invested in a man who is not emotionally invested in you. He's made it clear he doesn't want your help or your company. This isn't an INFP thing, it's a basic human communication...
You've never met him and you don't know him at all. He could be a 15 year old kid having fun. Or a married man. Or anything. You KNOW literally nothing about this man other than the persona he's...
You're not soulmates. You're two lonely people who found an emotional intimacy with each other to get through some tough times. You don't really love this woman - if you did you'd leave her the hell...
Hmm, well, if this were me (and I'm an INFP/INFJ), I would want to see a serious commitment from the man to stop doing the thing that was bothering me so much. Like, counseling or working with a...
Whoops, I accidentally mis-posted this on the NF forum, not here. OK, INFP's, help me out! I've been with a wonderful, caring INFJ man for a couple of months after being single (by choice) for...
I've been with a wonderful, caring INFJ man for a couple of months after being single (by choice) for several years. We're crazy about each other, and he told me he loved me a couple days ago. I love...
since this thread got revived I feel I should give an update. He told me he loved me a few days ago. It's sooo early. I'm there too, but I'm absolutely terrified of it. I feel like this guy could...
I was never a snuggly person at all until I met my current boyfriend, and we are total snugglers. We sleep all tangled up in each other and wake up that way. We are CONSTANTLY holding each other,...
so the boyfriend and I are both INFs (he's a J, I lean P but am close on it). I don't know that I've ever dated another N before but we're totally in each other's head to a level that's almost...
In my experience, usually when a guy decides out of nowhere that he wants to break up, he's met someone else. If there are no other problems in the relationship, he's usually content to just go...
Thanks guys. He's said a few things that lead me to believe he is definitely thinking long term. I just get worried. I could easily fall in love with this man. Easily.
oh I definitely don't take him for granted. I let him know all the time how happy he makes me, and I do nice things for him. Actually, we're kind of falling over each other trying to be good to the...
I need to gush a bit. I'm a couple months into a relationship with an INFJ and it's the most incredible experience. He's amazing - sweet, dependable, brilliant, quirky, hilarious. He calls when...
what makes you say that? and how do I get him to relax?
OK, so here's what I find strange. EVERY time I see him, for the first hour or so he seems nervous/shy/closed off, like it's our first date again. But then it's like he remembers that he knows me...
Oh man, the gifts - he's ridiculous with them. Nothing expensive, but REALLY sweet and funny and quirky. He's brilliant at finding things I like. Sigh.
Thanks guys, this is helpful. Do I need to worry about coming on too strong? I'm trying to take things really slowly, and I get the sense he is too, but dammit I'd really like to just text him and...
Ha! So what do I DO?
ha, funny you say that because he insists on paying for everything. And giving me really thoughtful, sweet gifts. He's so good to me, I keep wondering what the catch is. I've never dated anyone who...
What tips do you have for an INFP/J dating an INFJ? This guy is so wonderful, and I really want to make him happy.
Thanks guys. He's honestly the sweetest guy I've ever dated - he's so into me and really cares about making me happy. I'm not used to any of it and I keep feeling like there has to be a catch. I'll...
Do INFJs typically move VERY slowly in terms of physical intimacy? I've been dating an INFJ guy and after several dates we're still at the cuddling/kissing phase. I'm used to the guy moving things...
I think because we are introspective. And we've always felt a little out of place wherever we are, so we probably started trying to figure out what's wrong with us and landed here.
Hi Retrini - how are you feeling now? I just saw this post and wanted to come in and give you a hug. What's hard for me with depression is that my mind plays tricks on me. I start thinking...
thank you all for your replies...I'm working on it.
my school had gifted programs from 4th grade to 8th grade. It was based entirely on IQ tests - I think it's kids with 130 and above.
I think this is a big part of my procrastination. I'm not motivated to do anything unless it's a challenge, and putting things off to the last minute makes them challenging.
Thanks John, that is helpful. I just wonder though if I SHOULD forget. It's hard to get over the fact that I say and do dumb things.
The big thing I need to work on is to not worry so much that everyone is judging me, and try to stop worrying about what people think. How do I stop this? I have a constant tape in my head of...
yup, me too!
Like, having been in the gifted programs at school? I've always wondered if there's a high correlation. And with that a correlation to our social awkwardness.
Like, the post-college crowd... Do you have any advice for the young'uns around here? I've noticed a lot of high school aged kids and I feel like there's so much I wish I had known at that age. ...
I've been in leadership positions in the past. There are parts I really enjoy - mentoring younger people, helping out my team, etc. Good leaders know that the key is taking care of your team, not...
been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Look, your parents aren't perfect. Probably far from it. They screw up royally and probably screw you up royally, because unless they're also INFPs you...
my recommendation: volunteer work. Helping others reminds you that you have some value. A lot of value. And that you've made someone else's day a little better. Also, try to make it a goal...
insincere people. They're the worst. For god's sake, just be sincere. Don't patronize, placate, or condescend to me. If you want to say something, say it.
yeah...I'm 30 now. This is true. This stuff does stop. Most people by this age have filtered out into their own groups.
crazy weird spacey uptight (at work only) anxious odd awful ditzy strong personality
don't do it. The military will crush your spirit. It's not the place for individualistic free thinkers - they're the ones who they DON'T want. Yes, at the highest levels there are some really...
the only thing defective in that conversation is the person who said that. Seriously - it reflects far more on the other person than it does on you. You may have your quirks and shortcomings,...
one thing that sort of helps me (in addition to Vitamin D, 5-HTP, Fish oil, regular exercise, and sunshine) is to tell myself that this ISN'T real. It's a figment of my imagination. As in, the...
you may be suffering seasonal depression. I have terrible, terrible seasonal affective disorder. I'm 30 years old and I'm only just now realizing that this has probably affected me most of my...
I'm very logical. I can win just about any logic-based debate. I just don't LIKE to because I don't like the tension :D
were any of you other INFPs absolutely tormented in school growing up? I never fit with anyone - wasn't until college that I started to feel like I belonged anywhere. I see some of these people...
you know I think it's just harder to make friends when you get older (I'm 29). A lot of my old friends have settled down and gotten married, and unless I'm meeting people at work it's kind of hard...
how old are you?
Oh I love my creature comforts. Give me a perfectly grilled ribeye and a nice glass of wine, a cashmere scarf, and i'm a happy girl.
I posted this once in the INFP forum and got some great answers. I'm curious about the other NFs. My humor can be very dark, and I use a lot of hyperbole. really dramatic hyperbole. Most people...
oh this is me in a nutshell so much it's eerie. I actually had a period of life where I seemed to have shut off the inner critic and was happy, and then I lost it and now I look back and think those...
yeah you can get 5-HTP at drugstores. And I do think I have a touch of SAD - I even got one of those light boxes to sit in front of and try to get more sunshine. But there's still something deep...'
