'I suck at keeping in touch with people. No matter how hard I try, or how much I like someone, I only have the social energy to even attempt to stay in touch with about two or three people at a time...
It often comes down to use a smilie/lol and move on, or spend the next few minutes explaining that you were joking when you made fun of their mother. Efficiency demands expressiveness. I do admit,...
First off, let me just say you aren't alone in this. Often intelligent and introspective people find their focus turns inwards. The self-analysis starts, and once it begins, it consumes until you can...
I was more philosophical, cynical, and serious than most of my peers. I was unimpressed with social conventions, disgusted with cliched teenage love (and general youthful stupidity), and discontent...
Accendo means to kindle, illuminate, stir up, make bright in Latin. I liked the imagery, the word, and desired to read and write posts that illuminated personality. So, Accendo came into being.
By rationalizing it, or reducing my pain to scientific terms. I literally name the neurotransmitters that cause pain. I consider the parts of the brain that are likely to be activated. I recite...
On occasion, I have. Usually it's when the topic or business at hand is particularly serious (in the context of work, or a school project). In a casual setting, I am generally the one making my...
The big ones: Stupidity-- willful ignorance, capable people who embrace illogical, misinformed arguments. I once got into a debate with a guy who, although intelligent, is very... old fashioned......
My writing professor taught us that the most important thing to do before you sit down to write anything is to consider your audience. In this scenario, it sounds like you're writing amazing papers...
I've got to know, which came first: the INTJ confusion or the username? The reason you're confused probably has to do with the fact that you're trying to analyze an INTJ's mood. We're very...
I have met two: myself and my mother. The only other tested INTJ I've met in 'real' life is my brother, although I'm 88.7% certain my (male) stats professor was an INTJ as well. Sometimes, it makes...
Trying to fix people's problems by first analyzing, and then applying logic and research to the situation, instead of just listening and supporting. (I'm usually pretty good at muting this, but...
The way I see it, we're only good at what we put our minds to (within the constraints of our individual capacities). This is no different from anyone else. They say what separates the average guy on...
Yes, yes, yes. I've begun to dread the moment when people, to make small talk, ask me So, what do you do for fun? The minute I express my hobbies, I always come off sounding strange, and an awkward...
You sound like an amazing sister, and the caring place you're coming from is going to be one of the biggest helps for your sister. As for specific advice, every individual and situation is different....
Since the existence or absence of God is improvable, we are each fundamentally making assumptions on the same issue. These assumptions both consciously and subconsciously modify how we live our...
Hi, I'm Accendo (hi Accendo), and I'm an INTJ and a Christian. (Cue gasps and a few head nods). For me, these things are not virtually exclusive. Nor were they exclusive for C.S. Lewis,...
I have many, but this is one I think INTJs will appreciate: x93Men seek for vocabularies that are reflections of reality. To this end, they must develop vocabularies that are selections of reality....
How do you INTJs prefer meeting new people? Casually. I hate the formality of being introduced. It feels so forced, and it almost always leads to small talk that's so awkward it's tangible. I like it...
Research has found that in early childhood boys cry more than girls. Boys also show more nonverbal signs of fear, although if you pull the girls aside who aren't showing fear and ask them whether...
Openness: 70 Conscientiousness: 79 Extroversion: 7 Agreeableness: 22 Neuroticism: 49 I'm not sure about the neuroticism. On some days it might be higher, but in general, it seems accurate....
From this alone, I'd suggest you pursue a PhD, as I'm applying to doctoral programs next year for the same reasons. Yes, there are disadvantages and downsides, as there will be for any choice you...
As a kid I was really neurotic, and afraid of almost everything. Now I'm a lot more healthy, and only have a few true fears. Namely, I fear failure, or rather not being good enough to achieve my...
This is where you lost me. There is no personality type I typically get on with worse than the ESFJ. Granted, there is individual variance. There are amazing ESFJs, and I would get along with some...
Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia, or the fear long words. I think is hilariously ironic and cruel, and giggle just at the thought of the word.
Not to be antagonistic, but out of curiosity, why does it matter? Most of the INTJs I know, myself included, get an (albeit slightly sick) amusement from their cynicism and realism. It was once...
Extroverted me This is generally who I am when people first meet me. Here I'm very charismatic and outgoing. I'm the first to make conversation, and I maintain it easily. I toss around light humor,...
I'm a year away from applying to grad school to pursue my doctorate in clinical psych. I have exactly the same motivations, and yes, it does taste like candy. People think I'm insane and try to talk...
I know it's very un-INTJ of me to admit this or talk about it, but I feel the subject is worth addressing since it's been brought up. There was a three year span of my teen years where I became...
As a teen I used to ask my father to donate to the [hungry/thirsty/needy] teenager fund when I needed some cash for something. I still feel it's a worthy cause. But seriously, I'm a big...
I'm glad my advice was helpful! Kudos to you for being willing to compromise and seek a middle ground for you and your husband. That says a lot about your devotion and care for him. It sounds to...
Thank you all for the tips! I really appreciate it. I have been trying to implement lots of examples to stress the real-life application of theory, and from what I'm hearing you all say, it sounds...
I'm sorry to hear your marriage has been a battle. It sounds like a very difficult and draining position. Kudos to you, though, for seeking advice. I hope as an INTJ (with INTJ relatives as well) I...
I'm tutoring an ISFJ classmate of mine in our university's Introduction to Psychology course. Being an INTJ, I'm trying to do research on how to best help my friend grasp the abstract theories and...
Closest friends: INFJ, ENFJ, INFP, and EXTP(?). I need an ENFP, too. Needless to say, I have a thing for NF types. NTs are great, but usually I go to friends for emotional support rather than...
I too am tactful and affectionate-- with some people. Affection manifests itself far later, and with far more difficulty than tact, but once it's been expressed, I express it often. Still, if someone...
As a female, I don't have the issue at urinals. Although I can imagine how incredibly awkward and uncomfortable that would make me feel. As for the others, I agree and relate to them all but for #1....
My (well known and respected) literature professor taught us the first day of class how to write an awesome book critique: I want you to say smart things that impress me. Essentially, that's all...
Welcome! And might I offer a firm handshake instead of the traditional hugs and smilie laden traditional welcome posting? I can relate to difficulties conversing in a more traditional environment....
You have highlighted the biggest critique psychologists have against myers-briggs typing: personality results fluctuate. My personal (unscientific) explanation is that circumstances can...
1. Do you have girlfriends? Yes. 2. Many or few? Only a select few. 1. Are these friends mostly INTJs...or do you have a best friend who is a non-thinker All my friends but one or two are NFs....
At what point do you consider someone no longer an acquaintance but a friend? I've noticed lately how the definition or onset of friendship seems to differ across personalities, and am curious...
I follow Kant's argument: I cannot will a law to lie, for in doing so I would be contradicting myself. This is irrational, and thus to be avoided. Furthermore, u200ewe should act so that we treat...
To an extent I would lean towards saying that INTJs are more likely to be stressed than some other personality types. (The ESFJ comes to mind). However, I do not believe this is because the INTJ is...
My body language is a compilation of a deliberate, informed attempt to manage the impression I give to others, as well as a representation of what's naturally comfortable to me. It's usually as such:...
1: 20 2: Female 3: On weekdays I get 6 hours on average (maybe less if my insomnia's bad). On weekends it's more like 9-10 hours.
When I had my first interview, I pulled a classic INTJ and spent hours researching the best job interview techniques I could find. I also got the opinion of my nonverbal communication professor, so I...
My brother scores 100% Thinking as well, but I actually believe this is a pretty accurate description of him. Regardless, logic and rational thought are the primary traits of who he is as a person....
Personally, when I become interested in an individual (platonically or romantically) I study what makes them tick, and what they need out of a relationship. I then try to adapt my behavior...'
