'I used to commute every day on a major East-West freeway that runs across the US. Every day I would have a powerful urge to not take my exit, and just drive on and on, away from everyone and...
Who is Alex? And why does it matter if he is here or not? Unless you are Alex, and if you are not preoccupied with yourself, you are free to connect with the world? Sounds very Buddhist.
If I want attention, and am ignored, I don't like it. If I want to be left alone, and am ignored, it's all good. If I'm feeling insecure, I want to be ignored and paid attention to at the same...
I get like that sometimes. For me it is closely connected with fatigue and stress. Often it is after I have been forced to do a whole bunch of fussy, detail oriented tasks. For me it helps to...
It's like picking at a scab. It hurts, and you know it is a bad idea, but it is also sort of interesting. Also, it can turn into a habit, a kind of brain worm. You are so used to thinking about a...
I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. I have a very visual memory and imagination. I remember where I left something by picturing the room; I remember conversations by picturing the person and...
Shelved in the Camping section: How to Sleep in a Prius C Plan that Trip! Or, You'll never need to sleep in a Prius again Putting up a Tent, and Other Practical Jokes Campfire Cooking: ...
The problem with vacations is that they end. I just got going on my own stuff, now I have to drop that and do my employer's stuff. And I don't want to.
This is well-intentioned, but you are getting push back here because your post implies that women usually are in charge of cooking, and that for a man to do it is somehow an extra special treat. ...
I use them both, a lot. You have already pointed out the advantages of ebooks. Advantages of print books: -Sensory satisfaction. The smooth cover, the feel of turning the page, the row of...
Sounds frustrating. I get along pretty well with my ISTJ coworker. One thing we are alike in - we are both happy to give advice, but neither of us like getting it. If he starts talking about his...
I love getting rid of stuff, but there are a couple of categories that are harder: Cookbooks. Ebooks are fine for most things, but I like a paper cookbook that I can make notes on while cooking. ...
Te tells me how to do it. Fi tells me whether I should do it.
I met my husband during spring break at college. We both went on a canoe trip to a swamp. Stay away from loud bars and popular hangouts. Try the quiet places.
Hurray! My vacation starts tomorrow! I was planning to go hiking in some mountains, but then I checked the weather conditions this morning. They are on fire. So that is not such a good plan. ...
Yes, of course. I assumed that approach, which is pretty naive of me.
Tips for men, women, neanderthals, precocious children: To open a jar: rap the side of the lid with a blunt table knife first to loosen the seal. If that doesn't work, slip the end of the knife...
I would tell him, even if it meant he never wanted to talk to me again. He needs to know that his father is dying, that this is his last chance to talk to him. Maybe he'll choose not to go see him....
You have just described my life with frightening accuracy.
I was also confused, hence the condescending lecture. My husband excels at many things, but clothes hangers seem to baffle him. I don't know why.
Digging through the sock pile: a memoir Make procrastination work for you! The Art of Disappearing at a Party No More Road Trips: How to get along with in-laws
Ask any 14 year old anywhere. The answer is yes for nearly everybody.
I agree with others. If he says he likes it, believe him. If he starts to seem uncomfortable or defensive, tone it down. I personally would have a hard time with receiving your missives,...
This is one of the reasons I think MBTI might be legit, or at least on the right track. My three sons are each incredibly different from each other, and were so from Day 1. I don't believe that our...
I don't understand Android phones. Where does the Android come in? It was very disappointing when my androidless Android phone arrived. False advertising.
The Big Bang. But apparently time and space didn't exist until afterwards, so that won't work. I'd like to go back to 1979 and eat breakfast with my sister and warn her not to ride her bike to...
I spent most of this very hot day reading Excerpts from Everyday Conversations, and now I want to post something witty, insightful, or at least mildly interesting or relevant. I tried making...
My own pet theory is that Fe and Fi will always be in conflict. I think human beings evolved these behaviors to serve opposing needs. Fe is for our need to function together, as a group. Humans...
Here's another: Done with work, walk across the parking lot to my black Toyota Prius. Open the door, that's funny, it isn't locked. Notice someone sitting in the passenger seat. Me: What...
Me (in a condescending yet helpful voice): Here's a better way to hang up your shirts. It's hard to get the hanger out of the closet if the hook opening is facing toward you. See, always put the...
Yes, there are a bunch of threads on this. I'm much more familiar with ENFJs than INFJs - there are quite a few in my life. I agree with you about which group is easier to understand. In general, I...
No. It seems like everyone has their own criteria for what is appealing, and I am baffled by the early relationship stew of flirtation/jokiness/vulnerability/sex/romance/pseudo aggression. I gave up...
I figured out a long time ago that I would never completely fit in, and I kind of like it. I have more freedom to quietly go my own way and make my own choices. I'm too independent, too lazy, and...
Psychopaths, serial killers, autistic, socially incompetent, oblivious, selfish. Maybe you should move.
Nope. I have been called stoic, cold, controlled, aloof, calm, standoffish, quiet, a loner, probably some more that I forget. I give off that vibe to strangers and to people I dislike or...
I'm married to an ENFJ. We've had some communication challenges, but have found ways to make it work. To understand ENFJs you have to keep in mind that they are oriented to their community. ...
--- Was anybody here raised in more sensoric environment? How did it affected your personality? My family was a mix, so I grew up used to both styles. I am usually more at ease with N users,...
I'm not making excuses and I don't eat the fucking cookie. I eat almost no sugar. I stopped because although my weight is normal, I am at high risk for Type II diabetes. My sugar habit has all the...
For some of us, it's actually not easy to quit sugar. It's incredibly hard. It feels like an addiction. If I eat one cookie, I just want another and another and when they are all gone I think...
I had the exact same argument! I was on the put the soup in the refrigerator right away side. My ISFJ friend insisted that you have to let the soup cool down first - she wasn't sure why, though....
Reading his books, Ti is clearly in the forefront. He is fascinated with theory, and with building a structure for understanding how people think. Plus, he often talks about his inferior,...
I am SO SORRY that happened to you, lilysocks. I feel your pain, totally. You too, TrippedOnReality. If you have any pain, I mean. And don't we all? Life is so hard. We are all so...
ENFJ: My life is a failure. Why aren't I more of a success? Nobody looks up to me, nobody takes me seriously. INTJ: What does it matter what they think? Proceeds to give a long...
Maybe he is an INTP, and I'm glad you are trying to understand him. That's really the goal in all this. But please don't base that on what people said here. We have next to no information about...
I agree that you don't give off an INTJ vibe. Your writing style feels wrong for it. INTJs are pretty consistent in using short paragraphs, lots of examples, and often start off by asking a...
I like organizing my desk, cleaning out a cupboard,checking things off on to do list. If I'm feeling angry, frustrated, or powerless, I will clean out a closet. It makes me feel in control and like...
Yes! I don't know what to make of it. Suddenly they are transformed into a normal, non-scary person! But sometimes I miss the monstery makeup face, because I have gradually gotten used to it.
Those sound like entertaining crepes! I always stab mine with a fork; think of the fun I have missed! and Napoleptic Here's a trick for getting the pitas to reliably expand and form pockets: ...
Camels spit.
I read somewhere that strong eye contact indicates hostility or sexual/romantic interest, and I think that's about right. Watch people and you'll notice that most people don't hold a gaze for more...'
