'I'm actually dealing with this sort of situation right now. There's a nice girl I've known since high school, but over the past ten years she's developed a pretty strong bipolar disorder. Ironically,...
There's really no nice way to say this, so I'll just be blunt about it. In my not-so-humble opinion, you're all wrong. Your dad, your mom, and you. You're all feeding off of each other's toxicity....
that escalated quickly
I don't think your post got deleted; it looks like the forum is having a little issue. Here's a statement you need to learn, and learn well. Memorize it. Recite it over and over. Repeat it until...
Produce results...? 642,247 white people who produced results are rolling in their graves. They were actual Social Justice Warriors, not like the modern...
I imagine most career counselors are people who really wanted a great career but ultimately couldn't do much more than...be a career counselor and try to tell others how to get a great career. I...
Us vs Them doesn't help anything, even if Them started it. There's a lot of genuine racism in the world, and a lot of people have been treated improperly for no reason other than the color of...
Absolutely. Some say it's racist not to give preference to minorities when hiring. I say it's racist to consider skin color at all in the hiring process. After all, we're all equal regardless of...
You assume I'm healthy. How do you think I'm able to express that perspective? ;) I think everyone comes face to face with their own mortality at some point. Some sooner than others. Some from the...
This. You may consider not taking the pain pills since you're not in pain, but this backfires pretty quickly when the pain starts and you're waiting for the pain medication to kick in. It's better...
Life itself is a deadly condition. I read a lot of personal development books, and they all have lots of good advice for how to live the best life possible. Sometimes the advice they give...
Any personality type can be mean or nice. INTJs may seem mean because they're different, but I don't think the average INTJ is really out to tear others down. Personally, I've been mean to quite a...
Tourette Syndrome? Do you have any verbal tics? About how old are you, and how long has this been going on? You should make a medical appointment if possible. Internet strangers aren't going to be...
Wow, you really told him. Do you feel good about yourself now? I know this is the INTJ forum, where everyone puts on the mask of cold cynicism and logic, but give me a break. Are you even human?...
What disorder is it? Everyone---even the person who seems healthy and happy---has something that gnaws at them every moment of every day. They hate how they look, they wish they were more...
The school administration's politics are out of her control, but studying, doing well on the tests, and forming good relationships with the students and parents are well within her control. From your...
Social media--or rather antisocial media--is definitely a good thing to want to quit. It can be difficult, though, since it fulfills an innate desire to feel connected to others. Ironically, it...
Don't underestimate the importance of this. Older people tend to be more mature, though not necessarily. As you get older, you'll find that conversations become a little more level-headed. It has to...
That's actually a pretty good point. I never really consciously thought of why I prefer an old-style, relatively low population forum like PerC over the hivemind of Reddit. Here, my posts don't get...
I read personal development (aka self improvement) books. They typically fall into two categories: dealing with yourself, and dealing with others. You can't deal with others effectively until you can...
I'm just guessing here, but...You've probably been judged pretty harshly in the past. For you, it may feel like every little thing you do is scrutinized by others. You may even feel like people are...
Everyone comes face to face with their own mortality at some point. It's a fact of life. I'm going to die. You're going to die. Everyone we love is going to die. Everyone they love is going to die....
Everyone knows that person. I've been that person. The worst part is that you can't talk to that person about it, because in their own mind, everyone else has a problem, not them. The key is to...
Love is often more of a decision than a feeling after a certain age, no matter how new the relationship.
This is the best thread ever. Also: crippling fear of the future
First of all: it gets better. Hang on, don't quit, and keep trying. It gets better. It gets better. I have a friend who is very bipolar, and she has similar struggles. She's been through lots...
Everyone does stupid things. I've been there, and so has everyone else. I know exactly what you mean when you say that you know the things you do are stupid but feel powerless to stop yourself. ...
TL;DR the point of life is to love. A simple concept with ludicrously difficult execution. -- First of all, imagine something. It's the last few moments of your life. Maybe you're at the end of...
It is very important to focus on deep thoughts for long periods of time. It counteracts the shallowness of our brains in the just Google it era and allows us to think more independently, a skill...
I don't know what kind of startup you're in, but you're definitely wise not to consider it a long-term option. Startups these days exist almost primarily to become profitable as quickly as possible,...
Perhaps I'm reading too deeply here, but it sounds like you may be trying to justify something that you already know is wrong, and you're hoping strangers on the internet will assist you in that...
Old is a moving target. When I was 20, I thought 25 or 26 was old. When I was 25, I thought 30 was old. Someone asked my 75-year-old grandfather what he thinks is old. He said 90. Funny how that...
Yeah, that's cheating for sure. The only thing the student learns is to get other people to make their problems go away. If it was a tutor helping them by explaining why certain changes need to be...
Free education? Take it. Educational opportunities are steadily decreasing as time goes on. If you don't take this chance, you might not get another one. And no, it's not realistic to be a...
I've known two people who cut at some point in their lives. One was in high school, and she did it somewhat regularly. One was a closer acquaintance later on, and when she told me, I got the...
This is the way to be. Friendliness to fellow people is something that transcends personality type. INTJ, Asperger's Syndrome, getting picked on as a child, etc. are no excuse to be mean to...
661650 661658 Passwords are sent in cleartext. No attempt to even hash them client-side. This would have been somewhat acceptable in 1997, but seriously...Not even hashed client-side before...
I second this. Potted plant is the way to go. Specifically, some type of cactus is probably the best. You don't need much water, and the spikes keep unruly creatures from messing with you. These...
Well, there's your problem. You don't know much about her, so you're optimistically filling in the gaps based on the few little details you can glean. I've done it before, and so has everyone else....
I would like to attract a beautiful woman, so I'm going to need to improve my appearance. I just don't want to work out. I would like to gain the respect of people around me, so I'm going to need...
Everyone hurts one another. The closer you get to someone, the more you hurt that person, and the more they hurt you. It's a fact of life and a part of being human, unfortunately. The upside is that,...
It sounds like you've done your part in good faith. More than your part, even. Some people do not want to change their situation, but they want others to feel sorry for them. Your friend seems...
Here's a summary; let me know if I got it wrong (I skimmed your post) - You had a great girlfriend - You started feeling depressed - You broke up with her - She still likes you, and you're...
There are seven billion people in the world. Can we accurately lump them all into 16 discrete categories? Probably not. Also, people change over time. I grew up very cold and calculated--a classic...
Have you ever been interested in math/computer science? You really owe it to yourself to learn a little bit of programming (maybe spend a weekend learning Python) to see if it's something you could...
Am I missing something? It looks like this site doesn't have https support. Is there a reason to not provide it?
Nobody knows how to make good decisions. We just try to do what the successful people do, and even they just try to do what the successful people before them did. There really isn't a great answer to...
If you press forward with this, you're going to be in for a world of pain. A world. Of pain. Read up on the limbic system of your brain. It sits below your cerebral cortex and makes you do...
I don't think any of these would be the best approach. Have you had a real, heart-to-heart talk with her? It seems to me that most people who are angry and mean all the time are hiding some seriously...
I'm also very introverted, and my work requires quite a bit of extroversion: leading/directing, presenting, answering to superiors, and generally being a public, in-charge figure. It can be pretty...'
