'I know I cannot change people. And that is not my intention. But unfortunately I have this desire to engage in social activities and to be liked- life would definitely be easier without that. ...
Yes, I do try that, but I feel that people find it easier to connect with other people over common dislikes. The problem is not that people don't like me, but there is always a certain distance when...
Isn't that even worse than being judgemental because you actually mean it :dry:?
That is true, and I obviously have biases and prejudices, too, and I guess you could say that I am judgemental because I don't like judgmental people. But the people I am talking about usually do...
Do any of you feel that the fact that you tend to be non-judgmental hurts you socially? My impression is that people tend to bond strongly over common judgments on people/issues. E.g. some of my...
How can you be so sure that there are no inherent personality traits? I agree that testing as an INTP does not mean that a person necessarily has personality traits x, y and z. But I do believe...
Considering people probably have not changed much over the last centuries, I would have been a social misfit at any point in time. But if I could travel back in time for a vacation, I 'd choose...
Most of the time, my approach to technology is practical: I want achieve x, so I need to figure out how to do y. I don't usually have any problems figuring out y in some way. But I have little...
Yes, observing people is one of my favourite hobbies. I am great at reading people and predicting their words/actions. I also love to read about psychological and psychiatric stuff. Unfortunately,...
When I was younger, I had hermit tendencies and I found it extremely difficult to get and stay in contact with people. But I definitely wasn't happy with that and I am glad that nowadays I can...
When it comes to small talk, I am terrible at coming up with correct (i.e. socially acceptable) answers on cue. And that only changes marginally with practice. It seems that my brain ist just not...
But how do you manage not to zone out? This usually happens to me during these kinds of conversations. This can be very awkward, if e.g. the person talking to me is my boss (who is a great boss,...
I voted Even, and that is usually true for money as well as immaterial stuff. I tend to be pretty generous with money, at least when buying stuff for other people. However, I can be very thrifty...
Over the years, I have become better at controlling myself in social situations. I am able to function socially - if I am forced to. But at the same time, I don't try as hard anymore. I...
There are studies that suggest that depressive phases alter the brain in such a way that the likelihood of fallling back into depression actually rises with each depressive episode. ...
When my mother went to school (in the 1950s/60s), girls had to wear a skirt at school, no matter how cold it was. She hated that and I guess this is one of the reasons she never really insisted...
Could you elaborate on the difference between nurture and nature? I find it hard to apply this concept to feelings. I try to respect my feelings, but try to not let them dominate over my...
Yes, I have felt like that most of my life. The problem ist that the more you adapt, the more surprised people will be when the real you shows. So, lately, I have been trying to reduce my...
Considering that my ancestors obviosly fucked up their children pretty badly, that would be pretty cool. Unfortunately, I am not 100% that I will never have children.
Learning, unexpected facts, absurd humour, beautiful language, good food, nature, inspiring conversations (those are hard to find, unfortunately).
Yes, I think some extroverts feel that they are doing a good deed by trying to get people out of their shell. It happened to me a lot when I was younger - and everytime someone said things like...
Yes, I get scared easily, even by soft horror films. And by books, too. I always had a certain fascination for the supernatural and started reading classic horror stories (E.A. Poe, Henry James,...
Yes, definitely. I can be extremely outspoken when faced with idiotic rules, unsolicited advice, bullies and unjustified accusations. This usually scares people when they witness it the first...
My mother told me that, as a baby, I cried a lot and slept little. Later on, I was very creative and loved to read and learn new stuff, but was not very interested details. I wasn't good at...
Same for me. I know a lot of random facts and usually do pretty well in quizzes or other games that require small bits of knowledge. If I had to name one particular subject that I know a lot about...
Most of the time, I find watching people interact and thinking up psychological theories about why they act the way they do much more interesting than actually talking to them directly. And I gather...
I used to try and fit in desperately and used my fake personality so much that I hardly noticed I actually had real personality. Nowadays, I usually only fake it for two reasons: - the...
But should this keep anyone from having children - if they really want to? As an individual, I can do nothing to change the world. I can decide not to have children. However, this will have very...
I have never felt the urge to reproduce, actually, the thought of having children of my own makes me cringe. However, that is not a decision based on logic, I just don't feel comfortable with the...
Yes, but most of the time I get side-tracked, so I rarely follow through with my more advanced creative ideas. In daily life, I like to apply my creativity by creating things with limited or unusual...
Also, child development is one area where psychological research has actually changed society's view tremendously. E.g., even two generations ago, physical punishment was considered the normal thing...
I usually find it hard to listen to people ramble about their life, but I actually liked your video. The conflict between (obsessive) introspection (and all the dark and sometimes crazy thoughts...
I also realised this very early on, but the hints were often very subtle. And for a very long time, I thought I could change that. I believed I was simply suffering from something like social anxiety...
The option to take my own life when I find that living is no longer bearable is like a safety blanket for me. I cannot think of anything worse than being forced to go on living against my will. ...
I am also very slow at making friends. The way it usually happens is that I spend a LOT of time with these people - which means that the friendships I have have all evolved through some kind of...
I have always been emotionally unstable, but it got better over the years. I usually have at least one or two serious lows a week, where I think about the best method of killing myself (this might...
In my opinion, surgery or medicine in general is one of the fields in which a high IQ says little about the quality of a person's work. Obviously, I would not want to be treated by a complete...
I did my studies in a related field and now work in technical documentation/writing. And I suck at doing detail-work, which probably makes me a terrible documentalist :sad:. Fortunately, the job I...
I am a very selective thinker. I hate having to think about stuff that I have no interest in (e.g. some work problems, financial politics, insurance stuff...). And sometimes I get tired of...
I second that recommendation. That is usually the first site I go to when I am bored (or when I feel like everyone is going crazy).
Solving an interesting problem Having lots of manageable tasks with close deadlines Walking into a library with lots of time on my hands (or into a book shop with lots of time and money on my...
Yes, the official stuff gives structure to the conversation. When I try to do small talk, I usually resort to the weather or some kind of office talk and the conversation dies pretty quickly. This...
A coworker of mine once told me she admired the fact that I manage to keep my professional life and private life separate. The fact that this is one of the most memorable compliments in the last...
1) I usually start to go into hermit mode when I have been sitting at home on my own for 2-3 days. And I believe that is not healthy for me on the long run. However, like absentminded, I need social...
I really don't think it is possible to answer this question on a generic level. If you feel the need to discuss this episode with him, why don't you just do it? I sometimes hurt people without...
Yes, just like some meat-eaters get very righteous about their views on evil deer hunters or disgusting Chinese cat-eaters. I think inconsistency is part of human nature, I have not met anyone...
Unless you go vegetarian solely for health reasons, I guess it takes at least a little amount of empathy to make that decision. However, I do not see a direct link between a dominant feeling...
I used to be a vegetarian for several years and eat very little meat now and try to buy meat from organical farms. And I have thought about going vegan for some time, although I might like the idea...
My problem is the first kind of rudeness. I have worked on my social skills and usually try to be friendly to others, however, these things do not come naturally to me. I hardly ever get it...
That sounds great. I have been thinking about taking more time out recently. A couple of weeks ago, I went on a hiking trip in northern Sweden with my husband. We could walk for miles without...'
