'I would gently prod for more information next time a subject which can be used an entry-point comes up organically, using light-hearted questions. E.g. you: What did you do last weekend?, Oh, I...
Not having friends is the primary issue here I think. Friends is what makes the process bearable, even fun at times. Academic problems are average problems, not having friends is unusual. It sounds...
That's depression, not personality. I think the habituation has made you forget the seriousness of his condition. Sometimes depressed people kill themselves.. that's what they do. His sarcasm might...
Reverse osmosis home filters remove all fluoride. Costs like 400$ though, and you need new filters yearly.
Well I can you give a scientific answer. Psychologists have measured subjective well-being across the five-factor model. The big five measures an additional variable (neuroticism), some MBTI tests...
Look, you met on tinder and you had an affair. So from the get-go it's not a serious relationship, quite the opposite. She could feel guilty about it and drop you at any moment, which is likely what...
I had a French teacher in like 8th grade who would spend basically 50% to 80% of the entire class just chatting with the class. Barely any work at all, she would just chat with us the whole time for...
Then we invented doritos You're welcome universe
Self-esteem is a fundamental human need. If parents rear their child well it grows up into an adult with stable high non-contingent explicit and implicit self-esteem. Basically true high self esteem...
There was a study which found that prebiotics (foods that feed already present good bacteria) are more effective than probiotics.
A relationship is a negotiation, you don't get to dictate the terms of your own. Also you sound like an autist with some kind of personality issues. That's a scary thing about the internet, you...
Peterson says that the instinctive and emotional parts of the human psyche are the truly smart ones. The rational aspect of the human mind developed recently, and it sits on top of a foundation of...
The risk with being genuine is that some people inevitably will not like you, in which case their rejection hits closer to home than the rejection of a persona. But if you play a persona you surround...
I'm pretty sure the overwhelming number of studies found that children fed breast milk are more intelligent and have stronger immune systems than formula. Turns out that feeding babies what they're...
Never had that problem. Everyone states their preference and then we negotiate. And if people are happy to give up their choice, I'm more than happy to pick.
I glanced at what MGTOWs say among themselves a while back. It's woman-hating threads as far as the eye can see. Seemingly made by men who had one or a two bad experiences with women, and instead of...
That's an abandonment schema. It forms itself in childhood/teens if you got rejected unusually often by your parents or your peers. If you pay attention you'll notice a lot of people have scars from...
Never looking at someone's phone is a bit bizarre though, especially for years-long relationship. I think there should be mutual agreement between both partners to have a certain degree of openness...
A big part of female attractiveness is genetics and body weight. You can put lipstick on a pig, it's still a pig. I take care of my appearance for the same reason I do most things, strategically....
Two awkward people meet and mutually misinterpret each other's social cues.
You don't necessarily need to bring her, I think it would better if you didn't, I reckon the therapist will tell you the same. See the real problem with this type of childhood dynamic is that it...
A man-only thread? How dare you. I know exactly the type of psychological warfare to deal with this little rebelion. ...
People who lament about their lives bother me a little, I feel that they're a little arrogant. Maybe they're not, that's just my impression. Arrogant because they're trying to receive attention,...
When you've known someone for a short time, you don't really know them, you don't know what goes on in their mind. What you really see are your own idealized projections, your own low-resolution...
It sounds maybe like a self-esteem/self-confidence issue. You have to own who you are and not feel ashamed or apologetic. NF men have a lot of gifts, if on top of that you feel proud and happy with...
The irony is that Peterson would never use MBTI, it's not scientifically valid and is outclassed by the five-factor model, which was built using 50 years of the scientific method, and it's what he...
What a bizarre thread. Egocentrism masquerading as something else. MBTI isn't scientific, it's not rigorous and it's not a human universal, you shouldn't be basing your entire identity around it....
The results go in line with what I suspected that the P-J dichotomy in MBTI doesn't measure conscientiousness properly, although we would need a much larger sample size to draw a solid conclusion....
What a lot of people do is that they plan for the job they have a passion for, while simultaneously working on a backup plan. I think you should go to university, you have dead time so you might as...
I think you should be blunt. State that you still have a crush on him, and insist on a clear answer whether he is or not interested in you. If he isn't, I think it's probably for the best that you...
Whenever he tries to use you a prop or foil in his conversations, shut him down. I'm guessing this is happening because you're allowing him to walk over you, so stop that. You probably ought to stop...
I find it hard to believe that every single person is telling you Don't have children, it's a lie. Your confirmation bias is probably only making you remember those instances in particular. I've...
Has it never occurred to you that your mother was wrong? Children are powerless, they unconsciously take on the expectations of the adults around them, their survival depends on it. If the parent...
You haven't stated what the actual, concrete problem is. If you want to speak in vague terms, it's normal to get upset when your expectations don't fall through. Jordan Peterson uses these...
You sure you don't want kids? A few more years and it's over. What are you going to do with your life from the ages of 40 to 80 years old? You probably should think about that. He can have children...
Words have meanings. Intelligence is IQ. The social scientists tried to prove there were multiple intelligences, but they every single study they ran showed that IQ predicted performance across all...
IQ is basically processing speed, it doesn't tell you anything about a person's character or personality. Having higher IQ means being able to juggle more variables simultaneously, the visible result...
What you're describing is low self esteem. It has developmental roots, often from neglectful or abusive parenting. Or any kind of deficient parenting e.g. overprotective, absent, etc. But...
Strategist (VDI-C) Nature 61% Visionary 59% Diligent 72% Introverted Identity Challenging Highly intelligent and thoroughly unconventional, Strategists might be known to the people around...
I've never been cynical. I think being cynical is basically obsessively rehashing and nourishing negative thought patterns. I'm realistic about potential problems, but a problem is just something to...
Kicked out of college 3 times eh. A problem with Asperger's is not understanding social norms. An aspie can understanding social norms to an extent but it doesn't come naturally, it needs to be...
I'm reading low conscientiousness (five-factor). High conscientiousness is a good predictor of job performance, except: …using conscientiousness as a standard of job performance won’t work for...
You reckon women are more choosy? There was a study on which women men find the most attractive. 20 year olds with an ideal waist to hip ratio, that's it. It didn't matter if the man was 20 or 60...
Black people in the US are overrepresented in the lower socio-economic classes. The human brain is programmed to evaluate social rank, people who are low on the dominance hierarchy are higher in...
It would be better to use five-factor. The interesting thing about five-factor is that it didn't start from a theory, it emerged as a consistent pattern from factor analysis. It's more complicated...
High trait openness (N equivalent) includes the facet sensitivity to aesthetics. Maybe you're a weak N, or you lean heavily towards intellect/interest in ideas and none towards the artistic aspects.
Music isn't mathematics manifested. Music follows repetitive patterns which can be analysed with numbers, that's completely different. I could analyse your junk food eating patterns and make graphs...
By virtue of the stringent US immigration process Muslims and legal immigrants in general are well-educated as a group, they're not representative at all of the average person in their respective...
Europe and Scandinavia, and the west in general, has a Marxist undercurrent; brown people can do no harm because they're an oppressed victim class. Social justice, feminism, intersectionality;...'
